BDSM Dictionary

BDSM Guide

A BDSM dictionary is a guide. An eyeopener. Not a checklist you have to follow. Do not let the truth of others dictate you. Remember. All BDSM needs to be consensual. Non-consensual concepts are not BDSM. They are abuse. Avoid them. Stand up to them. Stop them.

Seek pleasure. Seek pain. Experiment. Be creative. Develop your master and slave relationships. And ignore those calling your consensual play wrong. For whatever reason

The BDSM dictionary is a work in progress. We will keep adding terms. Concepts. Ideas. And your contributions are welcome. We love input. Feedback.

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BD/SM

Sometimes BD/SM. Bondage and Discipline, Domination and Submission, Sadism and Masochism. Catch-all term much used in North America to lump together those folks who play with physical pain and those who don’t, reflecting a concern that the term SM, with its associations with pain, is not always appropriate.

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Bondage

Restriction of a person’s bodily movement for erotic reasons using fastenings of various kinds. Also sometimes used loosely as a code for a wider range of SM practices, reflecting the fact that bondage interests are widespread and popular among SMers (though certainly not universal).

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Discipline

Like many SM terms, used rather loosely, but usually refers to the imposition of rules of behaviour on the bottom in domination scenes and the ‘punishments’ used to enforce them. A distinction is often made between intense and painful activities that are carried out so the bottom gets direct enjoyment from them and those carried out as a ‘punishment’ for infraction where in certain kinds of ongoing relationships the bottom does not determine the limits of the activity. A bottom seeking ‘discipline’ would normally expect their behaviour to be carefully controlled and that there will be regular opportunities for some form of physical punishment, even if mild, for infractions. When used with ‘bondage’ in bondage and discipline, as distinct from SM, there is a definite implication that little or no real pain is involved.

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Domination

Alternatively, dominance (a form sometimes preferred in the US). The practice of taking the dominant role in a scene, running the scene, controlling the bottom’s behaviour, perhaps simply as role play or humiliation or perhaps reinforced by the threat or the actual use of intense or painful physical activities directed at the bottom, and/or by restriction, bondage and physical control. A person who takes on this sexually dominant role, either habitually or for a specific scene, is known as a dominant or dom. The term dominatrix has a more specific meaning — see below.

The complimentary term for the bottom is submission. Someone bottoming to a dominant is called a submissive or sub. ‘Submissive’ is also an adjective. But the term subby is sometimes heard. The terms ‘Dom’ and ‘sub’ to describe individuals have slightly more currency in the heterosexual scene that among gay men and lesbians, where the terms ‘top’ and ‘bottom’ are more common. Femdom. Meaning a female dominant or a scene with a woman top, and its equivalent maledom, are invariably used to refer to heterosexual interaction. The overarching term for games involving domination is domination and submission (dom-sub, DS, D/S, D/s or D&S).

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Sadomasochism, Sadomasochist

SM, S/M, S/m, S&M, SMer (sadomasochist). Human sexual behaviour is highly complex and there are no easy definitions for the terms used to describe it — usage has shifted both over time and from group to group, being adapted to the needs and opinions of the day. The terms sadism and masochism, as used of sex-related activities and interests, and the corresponding sadist and masochist, meaning those who practice such activities or have such interests, were first coined by psychologist Krafft-Ebing, drawing on the names of authors Sade and Sacher-Masoch to characterize what he saw as disorders.

Freud first blended the pair of terms into sadomasochism, emphasizing the potential reciprocity of the use of pain in sexual encounters but obliterating the distinction between what we might call the sensual side of SM and the psychological, Dom-sub side. This confusion has persisted and the two are only now beginning to be unpicked by SMers themselves.

Today as it is normally used, the term ‘sadomasochism’ usually suggests mutual consensual activity for the purposes of sexual arousal which involves some sort of pain, restraint or domination. However, it covers a wide field with very flexible borders, encompassing all kinds of things that aren’t considered normal or conventional sex: indeed, you sometimes think some people use it to cover everything a little unconventional that they personally find a turn-on.

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The BDSM dictionary is a guide to sadomasochism. We explore bondage. Master and slave relationships. Sadism and masochism. Do not forget. All the definitions of BDSM play are just labels we put on them. If you read that something is defined as this and that, it should never limit you from experiment differently along your likings.

There is no universal truth. Keep it safe, sane and consensual. Keep it interesting and keep exploring the world of sadomasochism. The BDSM Dictionary is simply a guide to help you put words to concepts, ideas and fantasies.

Live. Love. Spank. Tie her up. Be sensual. Be rough. Be gentle. Cause tears. Cause screams. Hunt orgasms. BDSM is pleasure-seeking. Not a rigid regime.

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